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Tag: performance
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
In Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles, he tells the story of a seminar where he held a $100 bill in the air and asked the audience, “Who wants this $100 bill?”
Almost everyone raised their hands, dozens of people shouted “I’ll take it!” and many more stood up and cheered. This went on for a while, but Jack just stood there and waited. Finally, someone ran up and took the $100 bill right out of his hands. Everyone else wanted the money, but no one else had the guts to take the necessary action.
When Jack asked the audience why they didn’t do what the one lucky audience member did, most said they thought about it but didn’t have the guts to do it. Fear held them back. Some of the reasons they gave him were:
- I was afraid I might be doing something wrong and then people would judge me or laugh at me
- I wasn’t sure you’d really give it to me
- I didn’t want to look greedy
- I didn’t want to look like I wanted it that badly
- I was too far back in the room
- I was waiting for further instructions
What’s interesting is that these are the same fears that stop us from reaching our goals in our own lives. What actions should you be taking in your business or your life that you’re NOT because of fear?
Let’s face it, there’s a lot to be fearful of these days. Fear is natural. We all feel it. The difference between incredibly successful, fulfilled people and everyone else is how they react to that fear.
Some respond to fear by worrying, stressing out, excessively planning every thought and action. The effect is paralysis in our business and our lives. Often times, this paralysis causes our worst fears to come true.
Others respond to fear by using it as motivation to take action. While many have the “ready, aim, fire” philosophy, some realize that the best way to hit a target is to fire first, see where the bullet lands, and then adjust your aim and fire again (ready, fire, aim). Very quickly, you’re hitting the target.
A great way to think of fear is to use the acronym, False Expectations Appearing Real. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
Here’s an idea…
Set a goal to do one courageous thing every week.
- Call that prospect you’ve been afraid to call
- Confront that co-worker you’ve been afraid to confront
- Take a stand on an important issue
- Start that new business you’ve been afraid to start
- Start writing that book you’ve been meaning to write
Turn your fear into action by doing one courageous thing every week. You’ll be amazed at what your business and your life looks like at the end of the year.
What’s holding you back? What have you done to get through the fear? I’d love your comments.
Sometimes You’ve Got to Look Down
- Why we sometimes give up on our most important goals
- How to keep you motivation high through the hard times
- Where to place your focus while your working on your goals
A Little Trick With Big Results
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How you can have feeling of fulfillment much more consistently
- How you can take meaning from the hardships in life
- What life is REALLY about
Scarey Accountability Results
Back on November 16th I made a committment to myself, and all of you.
I committed to losing 20lbs by January 30, 2010 (my 45th birthday). I weighed 177 at the time and hadn’t weighed below 160 since college. Many thought I was nuts…doing it right before the “pig out” holidays.
My objective was twofold…
Obviously, the first objective was to improve my health. This is important to me. I wanted a higher level of energy. I also wanted to look better, live longer and be an positive example for others.
My second objective was to prove out something I call “scarey accountability”. Here’s how scarey accountability works:
- Identify an important goal that you haven’t been able to achieve (make sure the goal is specific, measurable, achievable, realistically high and time targeted). This can be a business or personal goal.
- Do something that holds you accountable to achieving the goal, in a risky (or scarey) way. For example, me announcing to thousands of people that I intented to lose 20lbs.
- Do it!!
Well, I’m proud to announce that I achieved my goal! In fact, I achieved it two weeks ago and have maintained my goal weight of 157 since then. Here’s the interesting part…it was easy. Once I made the committment to all of you (scarey accountability), failure was no longer an option. With that option gone, my only choice was success.
My next committment is that I will continue to weigh under 160 for the next 6 months (July 31, 2010). Some people have asked me why I don’t set a goal of maintaining this weight for the rest of my life. Sounds logical, however, I never like to create goals I can only reach when I die.
What goal are you having trouble achieving? How can you use scarey accountability to help you succeed? Remember, annoucing the goal to thousands of people is only one option. There are many ways to commit yourself…to make success your only option.
I’d like to hear from you. Please reply to this post with the answers to these two questions:
- What’s your goal?
- What’s your scarey accountability strategy?
Thanks for holding me accountable!!
Mike
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- What “big rocks” have to do with having a fulfilling life
- A simple exercise to help you focus on the right goals
Also, for those of you keeping track…
How’s Your Attitude?
- Your mind is stronger than your body
- Your mind is stronger than any drug known to man
- Your mind is stronger than any situation you’re currently going through
I Will Weigh 157lbs. Hold Me Accountable!!
- Hold me accountable. Don’t let me off the hook.
- Identify a goal that’s important to you that you haven’t been able to achieve. Make sure you have a specific goal, and then, do something scary to hold yourself accountable. Don’t let failure be an option.
Why Goals Aren’t Enough: What’s Your Purpose?
I talk a lot about goals. Goals are important. Without specific goals and ways to measure your progress, it’s tough to know if you’re getting anywhere.
However, if the focus of your life is on achieving individual goals, you will remain unfulfilled. Here’s the problem…
When I ask people when they feel they most fulfilled and happy, most tell me it’s when they fulfill a worthwhile goal. However, when I ask them how long that great feeling lasts, they tell me it may only last a matter of minutes.
Why? Think about it…
Let’s say your goal is to make $200k per year and you reach that goal. For most of us, the next thought is “wouldn’t it be great to make $250k?”. Your euphoria will last a few minutes before you’re striving for the next goal. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with aggressively striving for the next goal. I just think we all need a way to feel fulfilled and happy every day, not just for a few fleeting moments after achieving a goal.
That’s why most people we know are frustrated, even if all outward signs show them to be successful (great house, nice car, large bank account).
So how can we feel fulfilled more consistently?
The answer is to discover your life’s purpose. Your life’s purpose is not something that can be “achieved”. You “achieve” goals, you “live” your purpose. By understanding your life’s purpose, or being able to answer the question “why am I here?”, you can strive to live every day in a manner that is consistent with that purpose.
Most people, however, have no clue what the purpose of their life is. Is it to finish my list of ” to do’s”? Make a certain amount of money? Make everyone else happy? I don’t think so.
So how so we figure out what our purpose is? Stay tuned for my next blog and find out!!
What’s Your Recipe For Positive Energy?
When we think negative thoughts our brains automatically scan our environment for things to justify these thoughts. That why some days start bad and just seem to get worse.
When we think positive thoughts the same thing happens. Therefore, it’s critical to know how to shift your energy from negative to positive at any moment.
What’s your recipe for creating postive thoughts and positive energy in the face of negative circumstances?
Here are some things that work for me:
- Taking a long walk in nature (this seems to clear my mind and bring new ideas, seemingly out of nowhere)
- Listening to high energy music (for me, nothing beats AC/DC’s “Back in Black”)
- Reading an inspirational book or passage
- Thinking about all of the things I’m thankful for
- Exercising
- Using affirmations first thing in the morning, before I go to sleep at night and anytime I feel down throughout the day
- Meditating
- Visualizing the life I’m committed to leading as if it’s already happened
What works for you? If you know, do it! If you don’t, experiment and come up with your own recipe.
I’d love to know what works for you. Please reply to this and let me know!!